Among the ten top reasons why you can afford to hire a professional geriatric care manager for your Problem Elder: They can make your parents hear what you have said over and over again, but they refuse to listen because, to them, you are still a child.
Those in the sandwich generation are dealing with senior care issues, often at long distances. I’ve been there, done that, and (sadly) our family no longer has any great grandparents to take care of. (Shown here is a three-generation photo, with my 95-year-old mother, who died at age 96.) But many of our friends are struggling with these issues and sometime, but hopefully not too soon, I could be the Problem Elder, the one who Won’t Listen to Reason and move to a safer place to live.
My church, Princeton United Methodist Church, is hosting Barbara Bristow and Jan McCurdy to talk about these issues on Tuesday, December 1 at 7:30 p.m. in a forum entitled Concerned about an Older Adult? How and when to intervene. I interviewed Bristow and McCurdy when that was the name of their company, nearly 20 years ago. Now they are known as Senior Care Management, and they are my “go-to” experts on matters geriatric.
I tell the story of a husband who made a firm deathbed promise to his father to bring his mother, who suffered from dementia, to live with him. The wife had a different opinion. In the office, Bristow and McCurdy listened to the husband for 42minutes of the hour appointment. In Minute 43, the husband said, “I don’t think this will work. What are the other options?” Bingo, problem began to be solved.
This forum is an opportunity to ask questions and find answers about how to navigate tricky situations with aging friends and family members. Maybe you have a Problem Elder. If yours is geographically distant, you can get advice here and be referred to a professional geriatric care manager in your elder’s hometown. Or maybe you, like me, plan to not retire gently into that good night. Either way, you are welcome to attend.
The last two of the Ten Reasons why you can afford a professional manager: “We can tell your annoying sibling to shut up, but graciously.” And, “We can do in two hours what it would take you two weeks to do.”